At the initial stage of my career, I used to think that knowing people of repute in my company would help me in my career. So, I made it a point of meeting them at least every 90 days if not in 30. One fine day, it hit me that I am not going to reap any benefit if these people will not take me seriously or will not value me at all.
Now, this problem gave birth to another question:should I quit what I am doing currently or create a plan to reach up in their priority chain??
I asked myself, “Why shouldn’t I show my attitude like many of them and find new people to talk to?” But it made me realized that these people are not just people but relationships developed /semi-developed over a period of time. If I become an egoist and leave them, it is not going to harm them in any way but it may affect me as I have invested my time and effort in reaching out and creating relationships with them.
These relationships are like those almost won cricket matches where you just have to bowl well to get the last man out. Now if the pitch is right, the lighting perfect and opposition not that good, it means that we are simply not playing upto our mark.
I always believed that we all feel that we are the best students of the subject called ‘Life’; we just forget to find the right books when the exams are on. :-)
How many times, we hear the words “Social Animal” referred to humans. But most of us become so busy with fighting daily traffic, filling rents and fees that we tend to forget the bigger picture.
Some take aways I understood while doing this self analysis were :-
1. If I need people to talk, share and seek help then they need someone too.
2. I just need to show my credibility and should start helping wherever/whenever I can.
If we don’t consider sharing, how do we expect to have all the things in world and get appreciated for the same? The technology today has given us power to reach out to more people, know even more people to help them and seek help.
For that help to come in, this EGO should GO.
EGO to me signifies three different animals.
E- Elephant - A person who consider himself too big to get connected with anyone below his level.
G- Goat - A person who always bleats “ME-ME”.
O – Owl - A person who just observes everyone and everything but does nothing.
So, this EGO has to go with the understanding that nobody is bigger or smaller than you are. We need to value others while having a conversation, as we are not the only person doing it. Last but not the least, take initiatives and do things for others sometimes without looking at personal gain.
I let my EGO go by writing my first confessional blog. What are you planning to do today?