The tragedy is that despite being rich, successful and entrepreneurial, the Marwari community is CURSED.
Why do I say this?
- Even today, a girl child is a curse, a boy a celebration.
I know that certain post birth ceremonies are NOT performed when a girl child is born.
A girl means CRORES of dowries in costs and the perpetual cost of servicing that marriage.
This is an old story
- Consider the BIG FAT marwari weddings.
When was the last time you were invited to a Court Marriage of AFFLUENT marwaris?
My bet - NEVER
When was the last time you were invited to a massive, 7 days long, 18 ceremony BIG FAT MARWARI wedding?
My bet - YESTERDAY
Why do Marwaris need to show OFF their money? Why do they need to spend wastefully when that money could do so much more?
I think its a mental gap. We are still Bedouin gypsies in our outlook. We still live in the mental deserts of our minds.
We still need to SHOW people that we are rich despite living in a society where your balance sheet is now publicly available at the Registrar of Companies office.
Its worse when the mandate is to show that the GIRLS family who got married into the BOYS family is rich.
Its probably like showing off a Male Camel and what he is capable of attracting.
- If you don't know certain 'customs' of Marwari families, be happy you did not, until today.
In a marriage, the girls family have to stand like servants and feed the boys family who sit down and eat.
All year long, gifts, presents, things to eat get shipped to the girls house just to keep the 'in-laws' happy.
The center of gravity of all these problems are :
- Complete lack of education.
The old Marwari 'mother in law' is a village woman. She is uneducated and in all probability mentally abused by her mother in law. All this comes out as revenge on her daughter in law.
I met a girl my age who said 'Thank God Alok I had a Son - he will take care of me'. Her husband owns a house worth 20 crores and has 100+ crores in liquidity.
I asked her if she had Meningitis (super brain fever). She didn't get it. And nor did I. I have still not understood what her son will do for her that her daughter will not.
- The Father is the Financier
The root problem is also that Mr. Daddy in Law is also the chief financier of the house, office and household. Now, what can thumb sucking Munna do when he is at the mercy of the father?
And the Father in Law is at the Mercy of the Mother In Law. Which means that the 3rd standard educated mother in law is now in charge of Starship Enterprise and can tell all the crew to go fuck themselves.
- Lack of courage to say NO
THIS IS THE BIGGEST PROBLEM.
I can promise you that people reading this blog have had their blood boil at their stupid in law's, silly functions and idiotic demands of their families and communities, but have done nothing.
They don't have the guts to take a full glass of sour milk and throw it on the floor. They prefer to drink it instead.
- The Nirvana?
Lots of family businesses are collapsing. So no more reliance on Family money.
Kids (boys and some girls) are studying abroad never to come back into the shit.
They probably will rid us of this curse.
So help us GOD.