Desire of Growth can make us do all kind of things. “We are doing sooooo good just by being with each other for few hours once in a while , Imagine how awesome will it be to be with each other all the time. Let’s get Married !!! ” Well….
So you have this freelancer / vendor / friend ( referred as Blink hereon) who works on your projects. You are amazed by the quality. Meanwhile your company is growing , you are adding people , adding new services. And Blink continues to work with you once in a while , notices all the growth you are experiencing. Alls good , he is happy in his world and you are happy in yours. But as soon as things hit a plateau , sooner or later you think “how awesome will it be to get Blink onboard full time, Imagine with few hours of work we did such awesome stuff and how cool will it be to work together under one roof. “
Blink comes on board , and you expect him to transfer his magical powers to other members of the team. You even agree to get few of the people that Blink thinks will be required to build a dream team.
The honeymoon period begins , new ideas get discussed, you keep looking at Blink and smile from within thinking about how awesome life is going to become.
And as time goes by , Blink who is so used to work as an individual , feels clueless about all the company vision , handling team etc and is all lost.
Blink who came on board to be part of the team realizes it is not all rosy as it looks from outside. And now that instead of being a per project basis relationship , you have converted it into a full time employment ,you cannot enforce a lot of things. The timelines for the work done as freelancer suddenly double when Blink is full time. Blink starts questioning how and the why of the very work he did happily when he was Single And to top it all , Blink now has opinions on how you should run the company. Suddenly you think WTF is going on !!!
Well, you see that its becoming a nightmare. You decide on a mutual divorce and stay away from each other for a while. And if you have not been too bad with each other during your times of being together there is a possibility that Blink and you can continue to work once in a while…
And you see the awesomeness in Blink returns , the peace in your life is back for good and you promise your self never to get Married again !!! Well….
So take a pause and think before you make that next Offer Letter – Dating Vs Getting Married ?
Alok Rodinhood Kejriwal
awesomeeeeenessssssssssss……….. can relate to this 100/100
i divorced these people long back
Kandarp Devashrayee
Wow it really inspired me to get mutual divorce ASAP with the blink.
We were actually confused with that.
Thanks Mody Ji.
Mandar Joshi
My God !! so amazingly true 🙂 thanks for clarifying that sometimes platonic is the best type of relationship and its not always better to get involved. At times people around you can contribute to only a part of your business function, at times they just contribute seeds of ideas or give you a logical perspective to think & act. Just take that part which works for you and don’t ever try to get them involved completely. Awesome post !!! again very true in relationships as well
Aji (Digital Marketing)
Now the new culture – Get married to get divorced to marry again … Divorce is getting more and more accepted norm.
Ranjan Bhattacharyya
Great post !!
Anamika Joshi
wow…. you said it. Quite true. To get divorced amicably is an art!
Himanshu Mody
Thanks Alok probably its not just about people. Its the change in status of relationship…. 🙂
Himanshu Mody
Glad it helped you to take a decision. 🙂
Himanshu Mody
Ya Mandar, hope some of us can remember it and avoid learning the hard way.
Himanshu Mody
I think you need Guts to end a relationship that is not working. Nothing is worth being miserable.
Himanshu Mody
It is a lot more complex then that 🙂
Himanshu Mody
Thank you Ranjan !!
Omkar Nisal
Amazingly Expressed! 🙂
Himanshu Mody
Thank u Omkar
Venkatesh Thallam
Greatly put,Awesome the post is :):)
keep writing!!
Himanshu Mody
Thank you venkatesh for the encouragement. Need it to convince myself to write more often.
Sridhar V
I think its wise to have a clear plan as to whether you want to hire full-time employee or a consultant and have a clear role or description defined. This will solve most of the problems. Some companies hire contractors too which is popular abroad, but its a new concept in India.
A better option would have been to ask Blink to give some references of people for the full-time position instead of taking him in to full time roles.
Kunal Kishor
Cant be more true… faced d same so many times