l had a good fortune of meeting this amazing and wonderful lady on lovely Sunday morning. Perhaps she was the good fortune harbinger to my life that day. I have met her couple of times in past one year, they were short encounters but whenever I remember those moments I always get hope, energy and sense of fulfillment. As expected she was glowing with brimming self belief on that Sunday as well. But if someone feeling very apprehensive and anxious that morning it was me, I was looking for answers to my questions, certainly I wasn’t at ease that day. May be I was in the rut of my life, doing things mundanely. Just before that Sunday, the previous week has pasted by was not as great as I expected it to be. I struggled to meet my targets.
While I was in the middle of my thoughts, she ordered for two cups of steaming hot Italian latte for both of us. She started a conversation with me, but I was lost in my own thoughts. She asked why I was looking so pensive. I replied that things were not happening and I wasn’t feeling happy. She uttered a few words, as an articulate orator she was, “One day when you fall in love with yourself, you wont even need God and happiness will follow you.” That caught my attention.
I thanked her for her niceties and replied “But I’m not feeling good about me”, she inquired why and I narrated my entire week like a verbatim to her. With it came out all the disappointments and frustrations. She listened with great patience. She asked why I thought that week didn’t shape up as I expected it to be. I gathered my thoughts, and replied that until Wednesday mid-week, things were good, but on thursday an expected and sure deal didn’t happen. And it took me aback and I didn’t remain at the peak of my confidence for the rest of the week.
She listened and then replied “I can figure out that you are a very hard working fellow, that’s such a nice quality to have, but are you not making things complicated?” I said how? Then she asked me a question “Did you realize what went wrong after that Thursday disappointment.
She said “You started doubting your plan and accepted failure as your reality. You polluted your mind with false reality and ‘what if’ questions… You complicated your own thoughts“.
She further explained “First thought comes and then It becomes things. You get the outcome corresponding to what you planned or intended. So what ever you think/ seek, you’ll get. But don’t complicate and pollute it with ‘what if’ thoughts“.
As we got ahead with our conversation, she told me an incident about her daughter, who was born mentally challenged. When she was in her 4th grade her school teachers and family doctor did an IQ test on her. Her IQ was graded 60; 90-110 is normal. They told that she was not fit to study in normal school and will never be able to clear her 10th standard. So she put her into a special school. One day her daughter asked “Why am I not going to my old school”. Then she narrated what her school teachers and the doctor think. The child was agitated, and said “I’ll go to school and not only I’ll clear my 10th but will complete my graduation”. She has not only cleared her 10th but with 1st class Distinction and cleared 12th with 1st class and is now doing her B.Com.
I was amazed by the story. I asked her how did this happen. She said, her daughter being a special child, she can’t think of reality. She just dreams. She is like a little child who wants her chocolate, and brings the roof down with her crying and screaming until the parent buys her chocolate. That child’s reality is seeing a chocolate and eating it. In her reality she can’t think of not eating the chocolate. That child doesn’t pollute her thought of eating the chocolate by thinking “What if my parent don’t give me that chocolate Similarly her daughter also wanted to do formal education, which was a given thing for her and completing it was her only dream and reality.
“But we adults with intelligence can’t dream, because we pollute it with: things are not looking good, its too big to get, I haven’t seen any one else achieving it, in my past I haven’t achieved it once, lack of self belief, fear of failure, what others will think of me. Thus we pollute, bring complications and get unhappy and frustrated.” She said.
She followed up ”Think about your dream and just wish things to happen and work to achieve it without polluting your thoughts. You will automatically feel movements and direction falling and things happening as you expected.”
I realized in the rut of life, I’m so much sucked into the reality and survival instinct that I no longer dream. I don’t dare to believe in my dream.
Now after that hot steaming cup of latte and conversation with her, I felt better, fulfilled from within. Now I understood the meaning of her first statement, if I dream and dare to believe it with no negative thoughts like a child, I’ll get it and will feel happy. That will create an unwavering belief in me, when I’ll start loving myself and everything around me will give me happiness, but it all starts with a dream and passion to fulfill it with no negativity.
All I know is what I want and I’ll get it.
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